Posts by troubled mind

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Meeting others????

by DATA-DOG in

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friends

are you like me, afraid of meeting up with faders and ex-jws??

i am afraid to be ratted out.

the only person that i have ever personally spoke to is raypublisher, well on the phone ans skype.

The Bible's Buried Secrets, new findings on how the ancient Israelites became supposedly monotheistic

by Finkelstein in

i viewed this tv series recently and found the information interesting to say the least.. here is part 2 which got my attention the most.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jyd0lzmile8.

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better to stay in or get out

by Crazyguy in

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friends

i put in a da letter a couple of weeks ago but the elders have not opened the letter and wish to meet with me first.

i've seen the stress this has caused me and my family as well as the alienation of me from the family spiritually.

so the question is can i do more to get my kids out of this cult by staying a member going to meetings some times and planting seeds or get out and try to then get the kids out over time?

troubled mind

Only you can answer that question . I think you have more wiggle room if you just fade instead of disassociate ,but it is your life do as you feel is right.

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List Reasons Why You Are Glad That You Are Out Of The JW Religion

by minimus in

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here's a few from me.. no more having to go to stupid boring meetings.. no more having to go knock on doors in field service and waste my time!.

no more mind numbing elders meetings..

troubled mind

1) I no longer live in a state of anxiety worrying whether or not I am living up to someone else's standards for my life .

2) Glad I no longer have a gloom and doom outlook on life .

3) I am excited to be able to investigate all sorts of movies ,books, knowledge about others lifestyles ,beliefs ect .

4) The best is being free....just plain free....no longer a slave to a religion and it's fanatical belief system

5) Taking the time to really think about who I am and what I believe .

6) Now having a truly open and honest relationship with my family instead of worrying what I say or do may stumble someone .

7) Showing true unconditional love to my family .

8) No longer feeling I am wasting my life driving around knocking on people's doors that are NOT at home !

9) No more tedious meetings going over the same old material ,over ,and over ,and over again.

10) Spending my weekends doing what I want .

Off of the top of my head those are my top ten

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I want to send a follow-up question to my sister who has recently cut me off

by Faithful Witness in

recently, i received this email from my jw sister: .

while i appreciate the thought, please do not send us gifts.. our kids are not missing out on anything other than things we try to protect them from.. at this time, based on prior encounters and their affect on me emotionally, i think it would be best if we didn't communicate.. i hope you can understand my decision and the fact that it is not meant to offend anyone.. .

i sent her a loving and forgiving message, and know she has no intention of answering me.

troubled mind

I like what you wrote and I wouldn't change a thing . You know her best ,and hopefully she will see she is not being authentic . Maybe it will open her eyes .

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Laughter is a good medicinehere are some!

by abiather in

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friends

there were 3 good arguments that jesus was black:.

1. he called everyone brother.

2. he liked gospel.

troubled mind

VERY GOOD !

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Three Comments & An Ass-Chewing

by piztjw in

so, normally if i go to a meeting i sit and don't say a word through the entire ordeal.

however today i just could not keep my big mouth shut.. it was funny that i even got called on....three times none-the-less.

of course 99% of the sheeple just sat with blank looks on their mugs this morning.

troubled mind

I would have loved to have seen that conversation .

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Did your congregation have a "Pioneer Appreciation Day"?

by Coffee House Girl in

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my mom (who is now a regular pioneer) has been laid up after having major surgery, and i assert my "biblical" rights as a daughter to do what i can to take care of her, so i have been trying to go to her house on my day off to vaccum and run errands for her since she is not supposed to drive.. she called me last saturday to tell me that i couldn't come by because she was driving to her pioneer appreciation day get-together, wtf .

i'm just curious if this only happens in my area (michigan, us)????.

chg. .

troubled mind

Yes they did that around here every year . A special dinner for the pioneers usually at an Elders home .

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How Many Remember the Mass Skating Rink Parties of the Late 70's ?

by Perry in

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they were a hoot weren't they?.

troubled mind

Every Wednesday night was carload night ! Skating is how my husband and I met and dated ....couples only skate !!! Oh Yay ! 1978 baby

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I need help in dealing with a toxic family member!!!!

by hoser in

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friends

i have a close family member who is a pro in using shame to try to make me feel bad.

they are coming to stay at my place soon and the issue of me and mrs hoser not attending/ doing field service will come up no doubt.. i need some advice on how to deal with this because whenever i deal with these relatives they make me feel worthless.

it is probably part because they are jw's and jw's motivate by fear and guilt.. .

troubled mind

Ding and Hortensia have golden advice . It just takes showing them you are no longer affected by the emotional manipulation anymore .Now that they are visiting your home it is "your roof your rules " ,and it is okay to set boundaries with them .